Here’s a concept simple enough I think I might just be able to pull it off.
Have you heard of the One Word 365 “resolution revolution”? Instead of making a list of New Year’s resolutions that you won’t remember by this time next month and surely won’t have kept by this time next year, growing numbers of people are choosing to focus on just one word for the entire year.
The idea, from the One Word website, is that you choose:
“One word that sums up who you want to be or how you want to live. One word that you can focus on every day, all year long.”
And here’s what could happen:
“It will take intentionality and commitment, but if you let it, your word will shape you and your year. It will guide your decisions and help you grow.”
Those who have done this in years past say that when they are mindful of a single word throughout the year, they start seeing and hearing it everywhere. They experience power in this kind of clarity and insist that when chosen prayerfully, a single word focused on for a whole year can be far more life-changing than a list of “shoulds”.
People have picked such words as “risk”, “enough”, “joy”, “look”, “reveal”, “practice”, “freedom”, and more. The possibilities are endless, of course, and the reasoning behind the choices is always thoughtful.
I’ve chosen HARMONY as the one word I want to focus on in 2013.
I’ve realized I live with a lot of dissonance in my life and it’s exhausting. The tracks that sometimes play in my head can be anything but pleasing. Much of it is because I’ve allowed flawed thinking to steal my joy and create friction in my relationships.
I find myself assuming I have to lower my expectations so I won’t be disappointed. I worry that if I don’t stand my ground, someone will take advantage of me. I frequently default to defensiveness or suspicion. I get this peculiar notion that the poor choices I’ve made in the past have created a rut so deep I’m unlikely to get out of it and so I resign myself to “my lot”.
Yeah, I’m not proud of these negative thought patterns. What they are is agreements I’ve allowed myself to make over the years that are flat out false. I’m not sure I’m always even aware I’m doing it. What I am sure of is that this way of thinking is not from God and is not a recipe for joy. I would really like to change it.
Instead of letting these patterns dictate my approach to a given situation, what if I were to stop first and ask myself, “Do I know that to be true?” Then follow up with, “Is my response here going to create harmony in this relationship or jeopardize it?” My answers could change my outlook and my attitude. Perhaps I’ve adopted a defensive posture or made an assumption that really needs to be questioned.
Maybe it is true that I’ve made some bad choices or that I’ve been taken advantage of in the past.
Maybe I am justified in feeling defensive or disappointed in this situation.
Still, whatever circumstance I find myself in may not be a “hill I want to die on”, i.e., it doesn’t violate my moral convictions, demean me or someone I love, or endanger public safety. If that’s the case, I have the option of a non-defensive response. A gracious response. I can reject the relentless drumbeat of dissonance that so often makes me miserable and instead choose harmony with those around me. It’s a much more pleasing melody; I think I’ll give it a whirl…!
Here’s to harmony in 2013!
What word might make a difference in your life if you were to focus on it in 2013? Please share in the comments below and consider linking up to www.oneword365.com!
(And by the way, that cool custom image of my “OneWord” above, as well as the button in my sidebar on the right? Blogger Melanie Moore made that for me for free and she will make one for you, too, no strings attached. Just click here.)
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